Exchanged Life Marriage Counseling

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How is the Exchanged Life Counseling model used in marriage counseling? The short answer is that we believe the husband and wife need to step back and reframe the process. Instead of assigning blame, they both need to evaluate their relationship with God and learn how to abide in Christ for personal fulfillment. This would enable them to have a heart that is open to forgive, love, learn, and problem-solve.

Here is a document of notes of a lecture given on this topic in the Solomon School Lecture Series. Exchanged Life Marriage Counseling, J. Woodward

Some recommended resources

Video

  • The Life online video seminar by Dr Bill and Anabel Gillham is a classic. Session 2 describes how their “flesh” (self-life condition) was at the root of their early marital conflicts. Sessions 9,10,11 apply the Galatians 2:20 message to marriage enrichment. See the PDF notebook also al Lifetime.org
  • Bill Loveless created an on-demand webinar on The Key to a Christ-Centered Marriage. The videos and notebook are here. See www.christislifeministries.com/discipleship/studies/

Audio

  • GFI’s Glimpses of Grace audio podcast features Mark and John discussing a variety of topics. Episodes 19,48,71,72 relate to love in marriage.
  • Mark and Carrie McKeehan did an audio series based on a marital retreat they led: Cultivating a New Marriage. They alternate teaching sessions (MP3 audio download in GFI’s store).
  • A More Excellent Way features “his and hers” testimonies of Chuck and Nancy Missler of their marital restoration: “A More Excellent Way.” kingshighway.org/product-category/download/mp3/

Books

  • Setting Your Marriage Free, (original title: Christ Centered Marriage), by Neil Anderson and Charles Mylander
  • He Said, She Said, by Bill and Anabel Gillham
  • Marriage! The Journey: From Neediness and Myths to God’s Fulfillment, by Anne Trippe

Courses

GFI’s online course portal has two courses related to marriage. www.GraceStudyHall.org

  • A Graceful Body, by David Kuykendall gives a biblical, union-with-Christ study of the marriage relationship.
  • Build Your House on The Rock, by Dave Simmons is especially for the husband. It is filled with biblical, practical insights about the physical, psychological, and spiritual aspects of growing a healthy marriage.

Articles

Movies

  • Fireproof. Starring: Kirk Cameron, Erin Bethea and Ken Bevel. Directed by: Alex Kendrick
  • No Greater Love. Starring: Anthony Tyler Quinn, Danielle Bisutti, Jay Underwood

“…bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful” (Col. 3:13-15 NKJV).

Finally, an inspirational music video:

JBW

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