Stunned by Grace

Pastor Frank Friedmann has just published  a new book. Stunned by Grace: It’s Beyond Amazing conveys the message that has gripped his heart for over 30 years.

“It should make us leap for joy to proclaim the awe and wonder of the goodness of God. In the person and work of Jesus Christ, we are not only going to heaven, but are supposed to be experiencing heaven right now. But what if our experience isn’t lining up with the promises of God? Is it possible that we’ve only begun to scratch the surface of His amazing Grace? In his signature candid and relaxed style, Frank Friedmann unpacks the pure beauty of the New Covenant that leads us into the glorious life with Christ we were created for.”

See a promotional video and read an excerpt at https://ourresolutehope.com/stunned-by-grace

Certification Testimony of Beth Gates

…The certification journey began at the conference in 2019.  I had come to Pigeon Forge alone and was staying at a hotel.  Each night in my room,  I reviewed what I had learned that day.  The last night, I cried like a baby in my room as I reflected on everything I had learned.  If being honest, I had some things that I needed to fully surrender.  That night I released those things I had been clinging to.  Afterward, I felt free and so much lighter.  

After the conference, I began all of the reading.  During 2020, I read one book after the next, I watched the Solomon lecture series, and listened to the Christ is Life conference.  I noticed that as I was working with clients, these truths that I had been reading about and listening to were coming out in our appointments.  What comes into our mind comes out through the mouth and through our actions.  

One of the most beneficial parts of the process were the Marie Marshall videos.  Before then, I felt like I understood the message but I didn’t understand the “how.”  Just like with Pastor Dave, I was able to EXPERIENCE what real-life appointments would look like.  This series was so helpful to me.  Watching the counselor lead Marie through the process was a beautiful thing to observe.  

In August of 2020, I was able to come to the workshop.  Because of the hands-on approach to the workshop, I felt like I gained confidence and understanding.  I especially appreciate learning how to lead someone through the line diagram.  Walking into the workshop, I felt like I had a good idea about the wheel, but the line diagram scared me for some reason.  I was able to grasp the meaning and the message, and since then, I’ve walked a few clients through with ease.

Today, I am approaching the last few hours of my practicum….

Read Beth’s full testimony here: Practicum Paper – Beth Gates

His and Hers Exchanged Life Discipleship

Readers of Charles Solomon’s Handbook to Happiness may recall the testimony of David Glenn (which is included in chapter 8). David and Denise Glenn are authors and teachers of exchanged life discipleship for men and women: motherwise.org and fatherwise.org. Both wings are under the ministry they lead: Kardo International.

Here is an introduction to Freedom for Fathers, by David Glenn
which is based on John 8:32; John 15:1-8.

It’s an eight week Bible study on the abiding life, especially for fathers. Although parenting insights are included, the content is relevant for all men. The format is designed for weekly small group discussion.

The outline is:
Week 1. The principle of the vine: fulfilling your life from the power source

Weeks 2 & 3. The principle of the branch: running out of steam

Weeks 4 & 5. The principle of the shears: the ultimate solution

Week 6. The principle of the bud: the transformed life

Weeks 7 & 8. The principle of the fruit: keeping the basket full

See also their instruction document on starting in facilitating a small group Bible study.

This year David taught some of this content on vimeo:
https://vimeo.com/405142873

David and Denise’s materials have been translated into five other languages. Learn more at https://kardo.org/home/

Certification Testimony – Beth K.

I have received many benefits from my Grace Fellowship International training, and it has enriched my life and the lives of those I have counseled.  I grew personally through learning more about the rejection syndrome and the things that can play into it.  Because of what I learned, I personally started working on strongholds that had been in place most of my life because of developmental trauma.  I also was helped by learning about identity and how exchanging the self-life (the wrong things we build our identity on instead of our identity in Christ) for Christ’s life can resolve the frustration and anxiety that were created because of the tension of living out of the wrong identity.  I did not even realize I was doing it since “doing in order to be” was what I had been doing my whole life.  Once I fully understood identification and surrender, it made a huge difference in my life and in the lives of my family.  I was then able to begin counseling people from a Christ led position – closely listening to the Holy Spirit  while working on keeping myself out of the way.  This, of course, is a “pick up your cross daily” type of thing, but what I learned at G.F.I. helped so much in increasing my ability to live with hope and joy, and from that position, to walk with others who are struggling to find that same peace.

I have used the ministry model mostly through informal counseling with friends, family and church members who have come to me for help, though I have also done quite a few formal counseling sessions.  I find that this model is easy to use and that I am much more comfortable walking beside people in their lives than coming from a perspective of the expert with all of the answers. This is what is taught in the G.F.I. model, so it works very well.   Ultimately it is the Holy Spirit who is the counselor, and I am just there to facilitate that connection and help point them to biblical truth.  I have used this model in a variety of situations and presenting problems:

  • a man struggling with adoption issues,
  • a woman struggling with singleness,
  • a woman going through a divorce,
  • many childhood traumas,
  • and many other diverse situations. 

Because the GFI ministry model is based on discipleship and reinforcing biblical truth, it is so helpful to everyone, including the people ministering. It is good to be reminded of our identification and identity in Christ on a frequent basis. 

I would love to bring this ministry model to my church and offer it as a way to help those who are in conflict, or are suffering.  I am hoping that when I can move from full time secular work to more part time, then I can put that dream of mine into motion.  I feel led to pursue a focus on grief, crisis and trauma–specifically developmental trauma as that is my personal experience– and God has put that on my heart.  I believe that I am being called to fulfill 2 Corinthians 1:4 “(God) who comforts us in all our suffering, so that we may be able to comfort others in all their suffering, as we ourselves are being comforted by God.”  I think the G.F.I. model works well to help those going through all suffering by helping them to understand their true identity and standing in Christ.

-Beth Kressin
(Georgia)
10/04/2020

Who Do You See?

If I am never given an opportunity to speak again, if I am stricken and never able to do another righteous act, if I never lose another pound, if I stumble and am weakened, if I am late, if I let my husband and children down, if I fail to encourage a friend, if that ring in the toilette doesn’t disappear before the day is up, if that wrinkle turns into two, …the list is endless.  Help me Lord to see me for who I am in you.  

A dose of 2nd Corinthians and Romans 8 tells me, that today, because I know who Jesus is to me, I am looking into the mirror, standing in His grace and righteousness. Today I am looking into that mirror unashamed, uncondemned by the old law, unafraid, unveiled and free, without self-loathing , face to face with my Savior who is changing me from glory to glory.  Today I know that I am being perfected for Him and Him alone.   He loves me.Lord seal this image in my mind through your Word so that I never move from this in Jesus’ name.  

If you are in a battle of the mind and unable to see yourself as God sees you, then I am praying for you today.  I pray the barriers that are keeping you from seeing yourself and others through the eyes of Christ are shattered and His love pour over you like waves of grace.  I pray that you begin today to feel and understand and know the depth of His love.  I pray that you will know His fullness and understand you are being made perfect by the Spirit of Christ in this life for your eternal life with Him to come.  In Jesus’ name I pray.  Amen

– Elizabeth Martindale

Surrender: Wholehearted and Specific

One of the “check points” in our lives and in Christ Centered discipling and counseling is wholehearted surrender. The page in the GFI Exchanged Life Conference notebook about this is titled “Total Commitment” and is summarized in the vital text of Romans 12:1,2: “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.  And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God” (NKJV)

This is wholehearted aspect of the Cross in the life of the believer. The daily cross (Luke 9:23) refers to the need for daily and progressive yielding to God.[1]

British pastor and author F. B. Meyer, recalls a conversation with a Spirit-filled believer whom he admired.

[Charles Studd asked him] ‘Have you ever given yourself to Christ, for Christ to fill you?’ ‘Well,’ I said, ‘I have done so in a general way, but I don’t know that I have done so particularly.’ He said: ‘You must do it particularly also.’ I knelt down that night and thought I could give myself to Christ as easily as possible. And I gave Him an iron ring, the iron ring of my will, with all the keys of my life on it, except one little key that I kept back. And He said: ‘Are they all here?’ I said: ‘They are all there but one, the key of a tiny closet in my heart of which I must keep control.’ He said: ‘If you don’t trust Me in all, you don’t trust Me at all.’ I tried to make terms; I said: ‘Lord, I will be so devoted in everything else, but I can’t live without the contents of that closet.’ I believe, young friends, that my whole life was just hovering on the balance, and, if I had kept the key of that closet and had mistrusted Christ, He never would have trusted me with His blessed Word. He seemed to be receding from me, and I called Him back and said: ‘I am not willing, but I am willing to be made willing.’ It seemed as though He took that key out of my hand and went straight for that closet. I knew what He would find there, and He knew, too. Within a week from that time He had cleared it right out. But He filled it with something so much better! Why, what a fool I was! He wanted to take away the sham jewels to give me the real ones. He just took away the thing which was eating out my life and instead gave me Himself.

Now, that is the point I am coming to with you. You have given Him the keys, haven’t you? You have given Him your will with every key of your heart and life. It is all in His hands.” [2]

Catherine Marshall was considered “America’s most inspirational writer” by the New York Times and is best known for her novel Christy. She was also the wife of Peter Marshall (pastor of the New York Avenue Presbyterian Church in Washington, DC and Chaplain of the United States Senate.) In her book, Adventures in Prayer, she devoted a chapter to “the prayer of relinquishment.” After testifying of how God taught her relinquishment and demonstrated its fruitfulness, she gave this prayer as a sample:

Father, for such a long time I have pleaded before You this, the deep desire of my heart:_______________. Yet the more I’ve clamored for Your help with this, the more remote You have seemed.

I confess my demanding spirit in this matter. I’ve tried suggesting to You ways my prayer could be answered. To to my shame, I’ve even bargained with You. Yet I know that trying to manipulate the Lord of the Universe is utter foolishness. No wonder my spirit is so sore and weary!

I want to trust You, Father. My spirit knows that these verities are forever trustworthy even when I feel nothing:

*That You are there. (You said, “Lo, I am with you alway.”)

*That You love me. (You said, “I have loved thee with an everlasting love.”) 6

*That You alone know what is best for me. (For in You, Lord, “are hid all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge”.)

Perhaps all along, You have been waiting for me to give up self-effort. At last I want You in my life even more than want _________________. So now, by an act of my will, I relinquish this to You. I will accept Your will, whatever that may be. Thank You for counting this act of my will as the decision of the real person even when my emotions protest. I ask You to hold me true to this decisions. To You, Lord God, who alone are worthy of worship
I bend the knee with thanksgiving that this too will “work together for good.” Amen.[3]

In both Meyer’s and Marshall’s examples, surrender is considered in both general and specific terms. And this kind of surrender is included in Dr. Solomon’s “Selfer’s Prayer.”

May we model such surrender and facilitate it in ministry as God works in us both to will and to do for His good pleasure (Phil 2:13).

– John Woodward
8/2020

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[1] https://gracenotebook.com/taking-up-your-cross-daily/

[2] https://www.path2prayer.com

[3]  Catherine Marshall, Adventures in Prayer (Fleming H. Revell, 1975) p.60
Scriptures quoted: Matthew 28:20; Jer. 31:3; Col. 2:3; Romans 8:28

Cross Currents in the MainStream

Sometimes Exchanged Life disciplers/counselors meet some resistance from those who are suspicious of the identification-with-Christ message that is central to this model.

One way to respond to critics is to go to the New Testament passages that teach the Gospel for the believer (such as Romans chapters 5-8). Another way to answer is to seek common ground by citing respected authors and leaders who are considered in the evangelical mainstream yet have believed and taught this message. We could refer to denominational leaders such as A. B. Simpson (Christian and Missionary Alliance), international evangelists such as Luis Palau, pioneer missionaries such as Hudson Taylor, hymn composers such as Frances Ridley Havergal, persecuted church leaders such as Watchman Nee, devotional writers such as Oswald Chambers, College presidents such as V. Raymond Edman (Wheaton), International conference speakers such as Ian Thomas, expository preachers such as Stephen Olford, and the list goes on.

I was interested to observe a deeper life influence in Billy Graham’s autobiography, Just As I Am. In 1946 Billy attended Stephen Olford’s preaching meetings (and the Youth for Christ team gave a Word too). The next year Billy returned from his second European trip:

Those months had also been a time of spiritual challenges and growth. My contact with British evangelical leaders during this and subsequent times, especially with Steven Olford, deepened my personal spiritual life. I was beginning to understand that Jesus himself was our victory through the Holy Spirit’s power. I developed an even deeper hunger for Bible study and new biblical insights for my messages. I quoted the Bible more frequently than ever before. (p. 111)

In 1968 Billy even brought president Nixon to Calvary Baptist Church in Manhattan to hear Stephen Olford preach “whose insights often blessed me” (Just as I am, Harper Collins, 1997) p. 454.

This is the Stephen Olford who authored Not I But Christ, and endorsed Charles Solomon’s Handbook to Happiness by writing the Foreword.

So, we provide discipleship counseling with a valid biblical basis, with the fruit of many changed and transformed lives, and with a “cloud of witnesses” from the evangelical mainstream.

-JBW

GFI Kindle Ebooks

One of the ways we encourage our counselees to learn the Christ Centered message is through reading. Although many prefer the printed page, ebooks have been gaining popularity because they are conveniently carried and read on a smart phone or tablet. Petar Atanasovski observed:

“No doubt about it, the publishing world has come a long way since Gutenberg introduced the printing press in the 15th century. Modern digital publishing has enabled us to carry wholesome libraries inside our pockets as we can access all of our favorite books and magazines via mobile devices. Technological advancements have completely transformed the world and shaped the way we think, learn, progress, and connect with one another. They have also deeply influenced the way we enjoy life and spend our free time. The shift from the analog towards the digital is evident in new reading habits, which made their impact on the book industry. Healthy projections say eBooks are here to stay: they currently account for about a quarter of global book sales…” (Digital Publishing: eBooks Statistics Indicate Growing Popularity).

Recently Grace Fellowship International finished publishing most of its book store on the Kindle platform. See https://gracefellowshipinternational.com/kindle-ebooks/

Ebooks have advantages that include:

  • Avoiding the time and expense of shipping the printed books
  • Avoiding high international postage fees
  • Immediate access to the ebook content
  • Convenience and portability of storing books online or on multiple devices

Many smart phones and tables have the feature of the device reading the Kindle book audibly…turning it into a kind of audio book. Here’s a how-to article about that:
https://www.redeemingproductivity.com/make-iphone-read-kindle-books/

So, whether increasing your library of Christ centered counseling and discipleship literature is to edify yourself or to provide equip a counselee, keep in mind the availability of this ebook inventory.

-JBW

Relational Ministry in the Season of Coronavirus

by G.F.I. trainee, Bonnie Young

I’m hearing this worrying statement spoken a lot, “You know, the number of Covid-19 cases is spiking in our area.” My reply, “Yes!! Didn’t we kind of anticipate it?” But I go on to say, “If our nation doesn’t get back to work, we’ll be dealing with an economic depression.”

We will see sickness and death from depression, suicides, and cardiac incidents instead of disease and death from the virus. Not to mention delayed necessary surgeries, physician visits, and diagnostic procedures.”

My unsaid thought, “Along with illness and death related to an economic depression, there could be more violence. Some who’ve received government financial assistance in the past months might demand the government feed and support them.”

As a nurse, I agree the elderly and those in poor health should continue to shelter in place. Those who are healthy and secure should be assisting them with shopping and other needs to help protect them.

Novel or new viruses usually lose strength and disappear after approximately two-thirds of the population has been exposed to or have experienced the infection. There are reports from physicians in Pennsylvania and Italy of the virus losing its virulence. In recently contracted cases of Covid-19, patients are not as severely ill.

It was wisdom to do the social distance for two months to slow the initial spread and allow health care resources and our nation to handle the ramifications of a pandemic more efficiently. Policies and procedures needed enactment to protect those most susceptible or in fragile health.

The past weeks have been a time of spiritual growth for me. In my years as a hospice nurse, I watched many people die and cared for their bodies after death. My experience and much contemplation have brought me to a place where I’m at peace with the fact I could contract the Covid-19 virus and die.

As I chose to believe God’s promises for me, my cascading thoughts of “what if” stopped, and I began to hear the still, small voice of the Holy Spirit leading me in a hopeful direction not only for the present but also the future. Wise, responsible clarity for myself, and others began to take shape.

Eventually, we will die physically. As I seek God’s presence and direction daily, He reminds me I’m securely resting under His wings. Nothing will take me home to Him one minute sooner or later than He has planned. (Psalm 91) Therefore, I am not looking to man or a bunch of rules to save me.

I’m 67 years old, considered elderly, and have white hair and wrinkles to prove it. Despite my age making me more vulnerable to the virus, I’m sensing God’s leading not to fear going out but to follow His direction. I sense a need to share this message of hope.

God’s reassuring promises have erased my imagined fears concerning the virus. Meditating on the truth of God’s words have given my physical body more stamina and my emotions a resolve to follow God’s directions despite any threat to my health. (Proverbs 4:20-22, Psalm 34:4)... Continue reading this article: AFRAID TO DIE?

Relationship and Fellowship

Relationship and Fellowship:
Distinct Aspects of the New Life in Jesus Christ

by John Woodward

Relationship describes the believer’s new birth into God’s family (John 3:3; 1 John 5:1).
Fellowship describes the quality of the believer’s growth, attitudes and actions in this grace-based relationship with God (1 John 5:2-4).

The example of the early church, through the ministry of the Holy Spirit, demonstrated in wonderful harmony both relationship (true salvation) and fellowship with God and one another:

Relationship: ”Then those who gladly received his word were baptized; and that day about three thousand souls were added to them.”
Fellowship: “And they continued steadfastly in the apostles’ doctrine and fellowship, in the breaking of bread, and in prayers… Now all who believed were together, and had all things in common, and sold their possessions and goods, and divided them among all, as anyone had need. So continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, they ate their food with gladness and simplicity of heart, praising God and having favor with all the people.”
Both: “And the Lord added to the church daily those who were being saved” (Acts 2:41,42,44-47).

A person can be a child of God (relationship), yet with minimal personal communion with Him (fellowship), but fellowship with God is not possible apart from a saving relationship with Him. These aspects overlap (1 John 5:1,5).

Consider the similarities and contrasts.

Additional aspects and examples could be given concerning the distinction between relationship and fellowship. However, this not to imply that these two categories are separate or disconnected. Relationship with God is the root; fellowship is the fruit.

Overlap

The “overlap” between relationship and fellowship means that, even when a child of God is temporarily in a carnal condition (1 Cor. 3: 1,3), he /she still has the invitation to intimacy with God (2 Cor. 6:17,18). “God is faithful, by whom you were called into the fellowship of His Son, Jesus Christ our Lord” (1 Cor. 1:9). Fellowship may be hindered, but the call back to communion is continual (Rev. 3:20). Since true salvation is secure (John 6:37,39), the believer’s relationship with God as a son or doughtier is unchanging. This should motivate unhindered fellowship with God. It’s because He has promised “I will never leave you nor forsake you” that His child should turn from covetousness (Heb. 13:5).

For those of us who accept the spirit, soul, and body model of man (trichotomy, 1 Thess 5:23), relationship with God begins with regeneration of the believer’s human spirit; fellowship involves the believer’s spirit, soul and body cooperating with the Holy Spirit (Rom. 8:6,11,16).

Importance of these distinctions

In considering this parallel list, many have been attempting to establish a relationship with God through fellowship activities. But apart from the Gospel of grace, religious duties are dead works (Heb. 6:1). This was the case of many self-righteous Jewish leaders in the first century A.D. Paul (who had been one himself) testified, “For I bear them witness that they have a zeal for God, but not according to knowledge. For they being ignorant of God’s righteousness, and seeking to establish their own righteousness, have not submitted to the righteousness of God. For Christ is the end of the law for righteousness to everyone who believes” (Rom. 10:2-4).

On the other hand, some advocates of grace discipleship implicitly or explicitly blur the distinction between relationship and fellowship. In this case, the blessings of one’s identity in Christ and standing in grace are celebrated, but responsibilities for protecting and cultivating fellowship with our Holy God are ignored. Such inaccurate and imbalanced discipleship is what the apostle Paul characterized as “wood, hay, and straw” (1 Cor. 3:12).

Andrew Murray (one of the most respected advocates of new covenant living) wrote “The Christian who thinks that his salvation consists merely in safety and not in holiness will find himself deceived. Young Christian, listen to the Word of God, ‘You shall be holy’ [1 Pet. 1:16]. And why must I be holy? Because He who called you is holy and summons you to fellowship [intimacy] and conformity with Himself” (The New Life, ch. 14).

Here is a concluding example of how relationship is the root of spiritual fellowship with God and others:

Relationship: “For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord.” Fellowship: “Walk as children of light (for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness, righteousness, and truth), finding out what is acceptable to the Lord. And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them” (Eph. 5:8-11).
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By John Woodward
jbwoodward@icloud.com
GraceNotebook.com
2020

2nd edition (heart graphic in the circle instead of overlapping circles)

PDF copy of this article: Relationship and Fellowship_JBW2

McRay, J.R. “Fellowship.” Evangelical Dictionary of Theology. Ed. Walter Elwell. Baker Book House, 2001.

Miller, Russell Benjamin. “Communion; Fellowship.” International Standard Bible Encyclopedia, Editor: James Orr. Eerdmans, 1939.

Toon, Peter. “Fellowship.” Baker’s Evangelical Dictionary of Biblical Theology. Ed. Walter Elwell. Baker, 1997.

Word study “Kiononia” [Fellowship]. See http://www.Blueletterbible.org / 1 John 1:3/ tools/ interlinear Greek Testament, Lexicon definition and 20 occurrences in the N.T.

Biblical quotations are from The Holy Bible, New King James Version (copyright by Thomas Nelson).