Readers of Charles Solomon’s Handbook to Happiness may recall the testimony of David Glenn (which is included in chapter 8). David and Denise Glenn are authors and teachers of exchanged life discipleship for men and women: motherwise.org and fatherwise.org. Both wings are under the ministry they lead: Kardo International.
Here is an introduction to Freedom for Fathers, by David Glenn
which is based on John 8:32; John 15:1-8.
It’s an eight week Bible study on the abiding life, especially for fathers. Although parenting insights are included, the content is relevant for all men. The format is designed for weekly small group discussion.
The outline is:
Week 1. The principle of the vine: fulfilling your life from the power source
Weeks 2 & 3. The principle of the branch: running out of steam
Weeks 4 & 5. The principle of the shears: the ultimate solution
Week 6. The principle of the bud: the transformed life
Weeks 7 & 8. The principle of the fruit: keeping the basket full
See also their instruction document on starting in facilitating a small group Bible study.
This year David taught some of this content on vimeo:
David and Denise’s materials have been translated into five other languages. Learn more at https://kardo.org/home/
I have received many benefits from my Grace Fellowship International training, and it has enriched my life and the lives of those I have counseled. I grew personally through learning more about the rejection syndrome and the things that can play into it. Because of what I learned, I personally started working on strongholds that had been in place most of my life because of developmental trauma. I also was helped by learning about identity and how exchanging the self-life (the wrong things we build our identity on instead of our identity in Christ) for Christ’s life can resolve the frustration and anxiety that were created because of the tension of living out of the wrong identity. I did not even realize I was doing it since “doing in order to be” was what I had been doing my whole life. Once I fully understood identification and surrender, it made a huge difference in my life and in the lives of my family. I was then able to begin counseling people from a Christ led position – closely listening to the Holy Spirit while working on keeping myself out of the way. This, of course, is a “pick up your cross daily” type of thing, but what I learned at G.F.I. helped so much in increasing my ability to live with hope and joy, and from that position, to walk with others who are struggling to find that same peace.
I have used the ministry model mostly through informal counseling with friends, family and church members who have come to me for help, though I have also done quite a few formal counseling sessions. I find that this model is easy to use and that I am much more comfortable walking beside people in their lives than coming from a perspective of the expert with all of the answers. This is what is taught in the G.F.I. model, so it works very well. Ultimately it is the Holy Spirit who is the counselor, and I am just there to facilitate that connection and help point them to biblical truth. I have used this model in a variety of situations and presenting problems:
- a man struggling with adoption issues,
- a woman struggling with singleness,
- a woman going through a divorce,
- many childhood traumas,
- and many other diverse situations.
Because the GFI ministry model is based on discipleship and reinforcing biblical truth, it is so helpful to everyone, including the people ministering. It is good to be reminded of our identification and identity in Christ on a frequent basis.
I would love to bring this ministry model to my church and offer it as a way to help those who are in conflict, or are suffering. I am hoping that when I can move from full time secular work to more part time, then I can put that dream of mine into motion. I feel led to pursue a focus on grief, crisis and trauma–specifically developmental trauma as that is my personal experience– and God has put that on my heart. I believe that I am being called to fulfill 2 Corinthians 1:4 “(God) who comforts us in all our suffering, so that we may be able to comfort others in all their suffering, as we ourselves are being comforted by God.” I think the G.F.I. model works well to help those going through all suffering by helping them to understand their true identity and standing in Christ.
If I am never given an opportunity to speak again, if I am stricken and never able to do another righteous act, if I never lose another pound, if I stumble and am weakened, if I am late, if I let my husband and children down, if I fail to encourage a friend, if that ring in the toilette doesn’t disappear before the day is up, if that wrinkle turns into two, …the list is endless. Help me Lord to see me for who I am in you.
A dose of 2nd Corinthians and Romans 8 tells me, that today, because I know who Jesus is to me, I am looking into the mirror, standing in His grace and righteousness. Today I am looking into that mirror unashamed, uncondemned by the old law, unafraid, unveiled and free, without self-loathing , face to face with my Savior who is changing me from glory to glory. Today I know that I am being perfected for Him and Him alone. He loves me.Lord seal this image in my mind through your Word so that I never move from this in Jesus’ name.
If you are in a battle of the mind and unable to see yourself as God sees you, then I am praying for you today. I pray the barriers that are keeping you from seeing yourself and others through the eyes of Christ are shattered and His love pour over you like waves of grace. I pray that you begin today to feel and understand and know the depth of His love. I pray that you will know His fullness and understand you are being made perfect by the Spirit of Christ in this life for your eternal life with Him to come. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen
– Elizabeth Martindale